Divorce Understanding course

Am I (also) the cause???

Relief or cure

Relief: Edward Johnson used to get migraine attacks and he took medicines so that he could go to office. He suffered for years and kept on suppressing his pain.

Cure: On the other hand, Emily Johnson, Edward's wife, also used to get migraine attacks and she came to understand that it was the stress, overeating and caffeine that were the roots of the attacks. She rooted these roots out from her life and never used any medicines. She felt so bubbly and light throughout the day.

Relief is external and Cure is internal

Most of us want those fast-food type solutions that don't require any effort and don't give lasting benefits also. A lady went to a master and asked him for curing her problems. The master asked in return what it was that she was really looking for - a relief or a cure? He explained: A relief is always external. It is an effort to bring about changes in the situations or people. It gives a temporary soothing. But Cure is internal. It makes you so strong that you can face any situation with courage. It roots out all fears and insecurities. It roots out the understanding that creates weakness of any sort. Relief is easy to get, but for cure, you need to be ready to do the work on your mind.

When there is suffering due to some reasons, most people follow the relief route. They go out to watch a movie, or take drugs or alcohol, or overeat, or gossip, or seek sympathy etc. However, there are some courageous few who would rather go for a lasting cure. They make a proactive effort to understand the root of their suffering and remove it from their minds. As we will go through this course, we will understand that the roots of all type of sufferings are certain wrong notions called conditionings that we unconsciously live by. Unless we uproot them, there is no possibility of putting an end to the possibility of suffering.

The Definition of pain

In this course, we will learn how to de-condition ourselves from the wrong societal conditionings. We will learn to dissociate the emotive perspectives from the factual ones. The former cause suffering and the latter give peace. Whenever there is a mis-match between what you believe in and the actual reality, suffering takes place. Most of the people in the world go out and try to conform the actuality to the beliefs. It can never happen. There will always be shortcomings. This majority of people suffer due to this futile effort. And there are those few in the minority who would rather change themselves. They have all the likelihood of living in peace and happiness.

Whatever your problem is, can you try to look at it in the light of the above definition of suffering? Whenever there is a mis-match between what you believe in and the actual reality, suffering takes place. Now ask yourself what do you want to change - yourself or the world around you. You cannot change the latter, which is for sure. But you can surely change yourself. That will give you lightness and peace.

Two kinds of solutions

There are two kinds of solutions for all inter-personal problems:

External Solutions - you try to unwillingly accept without giving up the real root-causes. You try to bring about changes in the externals, without looking within yourself and detaching from your own habit patterns.

Internal Solutions - you detach from your own mental causes and learn to live in positive acceptance.

In our view, it is only the internal solutions that will give lasting and stable peace. The external ones may only give temporary relief - and that also is not for sure.

This course is an internal solution, a cure that will make you strong from within. You will experience stable peace and strength.

Now the question for you is: Which path do you want to take for yourself - the external or the internal? Do you want just a relief or you want to heal yourself fully?

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